I read a post online earlier today about this kid (15 years old) that just had a baby with his girlfriend (15 years old) It made me think… wow. Their life hadn’t even begun and already, it’s… well… going to be very, very different. I wanted to say over but that isn’t necessarily true.
Then I started to think more about it, and I quickly came to the realization that at 15, no way buddy makes any money worthy of supporting a family. Part time job at best, means what.. 200-500 a month if you’re lucky? So where do you live where you can support a kid on that kind of money? He’s 15! At 15 I was a dishwasher at a greek restaurant in Calgary called the Olympic Flame. If I made $500/month I was thrilled.
I kept reading the article and many others chimed in on how stupid this kid was, a baby having a baby. How people felt bad for the parents because ultimately, it’s not on them to raise this baby. I don’t mean the 15 year olds, no, I mean *their* parents. If you think about it, that’s the likely scenario here.
Bryci and I don’t have children, and we won’t be having children as I went and had a vasectomy. It’s not possible for me now and we’ve been together 10 years (almost) so you’d best believe we’ve had the kid talk many, many, MANY times. I’m not anti-children in the least, nor is she. We simply are having the time of our lives and kids weren’t working into that picture. Again, we both like kids.
Yeah, we know that some kids are shitheads and they are essentially poster children for birth control. You see these little fuckers and you think… nope, not me. I am never having a kid. Then you’ll see other kids and they’re awesome. I think the parenting is the only really thing here that changes. If it’s a single Mom or Dad, it’s hard as hell to be Superman.
My Mom was a single Mom. She worked three jobs for me and my sisters so we could have a good life. We were poor, but we appreciated everything she did for us.
In this article about the 15 year olds, someone made a comment… well, we know they’ve got some financial responsibility for the next 18 years.
The commenting erupted after that, most people pointing out that they know kids still living at home in their 20’s and some in their 30’s. Some people in their 30’s are still having Mom and Dad make their car payment etc. I am not sure why reading that pisses me off so much.
I moved out when I was 17. I worked two jobs, I put myself through school. I later started my own multimedia business opening an office just off downtown Calgary. I wasn’t rich, and I didn’t have a loan to pay down. I simply worked, and worked, and worked some more. No excuses, just hard work. Most times, things didn’t work out, I almost had to claim bankruptcy once because there were more bills than clients.
I got through it and shortly after that, I sold my company to a US company and moved to Arizona. Life wasn’t easy, it was work and it was always a learning process.
Jesus, I sound like a Father here. :/
I am sure there are some people still living at home, getting back on their feet, recovering from a crippling student loan or something. I am certain there are many circumstances where living at home is the smartest possible outcome. It’s those other people leeching off their parents because they’re lazy as fuck or they were raised entitled that piss me off. I’ve had the misfortune of working with some in the past. It’s something to laugh over when you get two people together and one has all the right tools to be crazy successful as a model but she’s lazy as fuck. I would look at her like.. this is a joke right?
If you have a great body, great genetics so you’re pretty, and you’ve chosen to be a model – come on, don’t waste your opportunity. Nobody cares that you have great tits or a pretty smile. WORK is the only thing that gets you known and puts you in the guy’s mind when he’s wondering where to go online next. If you’re lazy, you will be beat by the model next to you. She doesn’t have to be as pretty, her tits may not be as majestic, but damn it, she WORKS for it. I see this more than I don’t see this. Not picking on anyone here specifically.
If you’re reading this and you think I might be talking about you, two things:
1) I’m not or I’d name you.
2) If you yourself know you’re lazy so what I said above fits you?
Come on, really? Smarten the fuck up time? Ya think? Nobody wants to work with someone who doesn’t work equally as hard or at the very least, tries.
I had this one girl email me today (previously unknown) and she was offered a decent amount of money for some photos/videos. She said it wasn’t enough and I felt like saying… you do realize you’re just a normal girl with normal body right? You’re not a Bryci or Katie Banks by any means here… but you’re hoping you make huge money for…… what exactly?… for a few sets of photos/videos?
Then it hit me.. oh wait.. you’re 18-19. That explains the self entitled ‘I deserve” attitude.
Note – I don’t think all 18-20 year old area people are like this. The shitheads just seem to think showing tits means $5000 payday.
I felt like I was 70 years old talking to a young whippersnapper.
I was like, holy fuck balls lady, this is not how the world works. Yet, for her, she thinks it does. She is in for a rude awakening someday. I think we all experience that oh shit moment where we clue in on how the world works. Some, later than others.
You ever look at things around you and question if you’re doing things right or not? I mean, we both know there is no life manual so with how you’re living your life today.. do you think you’re doing well? Are you realistic? I have no clue if I am doing well, I mean, we work hard so I think we’re doing great… but compared to who? I don’t compare myself to others because I’m not those people. I simply ask myself if I am happy. Yes/No. Makes things waaaay easier.
If Yes, continue. If No, try something different.
It’s like when a model asks me what so and so makes… her reasoning is that she feels she’s hotter than whoever she asked about, so in her mind, if so and so makes X amount per month, she should make at least that if not more.
That. is. bullshit.
Never is life like this.
If you compare yourself to anyone, get ready for a world of disappoint.
The other option, is to push yourself using positive role models. Work hard, work smart. If you expect more of yourself, you often get more of yourself. Don’t give up on your dreams, EVER. I don’t care what they are or how “stupid” they sound to someone else. On the road to doing better than you’re doing now, you’ll pass others that have given up or never got close to their dreams. Negativity is easy for many it seems.
I read an interesting quote the other day, although I can’t say who said it because it wasn’t listed.
Life is a game and money is how we keep score.
I don’t agree fully with that honestly, I view life more so as an adventure. Something to be grabbed with both hands. There will be ups, there will be downs. No matter where you are in life today, it can get both better, or worse. When I take a moment and look back over my last ten years… wow. When I go further and I’m looking back at the past 20 years… holy shit. Hard work is the defining difference between those two time periods. Money isn’t everything, but it def. helps grease the wheels. When I look back on past relationships, I seemed to always be the only one working hard. I seemed to carry past girlfriends, where they had no issues spending my money, or living a good life but it was because I was working my tail off.
It wasn’t until Bryci that I found my equal. I went through a lot of life without finding her, so when she found me via a friend and we became good friends and then later, more… holy shit. The greatest thing I have when I look back, is my relationship with her. You know her as Bryci, this hot female but you need to remember, Bryci wasn’t a model until the past six years. Before that we were together for close to four years where she was the girl next door, she was my down to earth equal that loved to talk about weird out there philosophies. She’s my little hippie and together we’re complete. We don’t try to impress anyone, we don’t need to have this or that so neighbors or friends know we’re doing alright. I’d rather wear blue jeans a white t-shirt and vans anyday over some suit and tie.
It on occasion bothers me someones when guy online tell me I am lucky like what I have with Bryci is an easy option and oh, look, you got lucky and it happened to you! Anyone that thinks this way, will fail in life often because they actually believe this is luck, and not something everyone can achieve with work. Same people probably have excuses for why they don’t have their dream job yet.
I’m not lucky. I didn’t trip and find a $50 dollar bill. That’s lucky. Meeting someone who later turns out to be your soul mate, is one thing… being with them ten years later through thick and thin… that’s not luck, that’s work. That’s day in and day out effort and learning to be part of a TEAM versus part of a ME.
It sucks when you’re with someone and you know they are not the right person for you. I think we’ve all been there. If you haven’t been there, I hope you never are, but if you are… don’t fret, there are many other amazing people out there. If you can’t be yourself or if sometimes you feel bad about who you are because your bf/gf makes you feel stupid with their comments etc… why are you there? You deserve someone who loves you enough to not attack you, don’t you?
aaaand with this I am going to stop.
Look on the upside, these baby pep talks are free. Crazy as fuck, but free. 
